Comparison is the Death of Joy

Going into the holiday season is usually one of my favorite times. Hang the lights, eat all the sugar, drink all the coffee, watch Elf thirty times, and buy all kinds of presents. Right now we are smack dab in the middle of Thanksgiving and Christmas though, and I feel a bit sluggish and nostalgic.

My pastor recently did a series of sermons on how social media can lead us into dangerous comparison cycles. I recently stepped back from all social media except instagram. I stopped following over 200 accounts, and am limiting myself to brief times on the app as well. I think after all the changes that have been going on in my life recently it is best to give myself time to step back and heal. I understand that for the most part people only show the best parts of their lives. I know I do it, and we are all guilty. Is it because we think nobody will care? Is it because we don’t want people to think we are complaining? I mean yes, I am truly blessed with a home, a wonderful family, two hilarious dogs that keep me busy, and a Lord that loves and forgives me, but that doesn’t mean I can’t be sad online, right? What you see of me on social media is filtered, cropped, and happy because I like to make others smile. What you may not know is that I’m sad sometimes. I have been through a divorce, am learning to live on my own again, and trying to pick up the pieces. It’s hard. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve been through, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I am not angry or bitter, but I am sad sometimes. Big changes in life are always scary, and it’s normal to fear the unknown. I’m trying to keep myself busy during this time, but any indoor suggestions or Netflix shows are greatly appreciated since the weather seems to be getting cooler now.

I am trying to keep my mind in the right place and stay strong. I’ll raise my glass of hot chocolate to all the others going through hard times during the winter. Just remember, spring is always coming.

‘Weeping may endure for the night, but joy comes in the morning’ Psalms 30:5




If you can’t give your friends the finger then who can you give it to?

Today I’m talking about those moments you least expect to turn extremely awkward, but then they do. Like when the cashier at the store says ,’Come again’, but you heard ‘have a nice day’ so you respond with ‘you too’ and then give yourself a face palm on your way out the door. Yep those are the moments they make us all equals.

A lady I work with was talking to a customer on the phone yesterday and instead of saying, ‘you want me to give you the figures?’ she opened her mouth and out came ‘you want me to give you the finger?’ Thankfully this guy was an awesome sport about it (it probably happens to him all the time) and he responded with ‘I’d rather you not, but if you can’t give the finger to your friends, who can you give it to?’ And then we all laughed hysterically about it.

Now, some of you might say oh, I’ve never misspoken like that, and if you need to tell yourself that to help you sleep at night that is totally fine in my book, but it happens to all normal people. It probably happens to me and my mom more than anybody else I know unfortunately. Share with me in the comments some of your funny verbal mishaps, and lets all get a good laugh.


My First ARC!

For those of you that don’t know what an ARC is let me explain. It is an advanced readers copy. This my first one, and I am absolutely over the moon about it. Sarah Moore reached out to me via instagram and asked if I would like a free copy of her book in exchange for a review. Of course I said yes! See below for my thoughts on the book.


At first the book moved so quickly I thought oh gosh, how am I going to be able to keep up, but trust me when I say that if you just keep reading you will completely understand. It’s amazing how the author lays the story out perfectly just giving you enough information to leave you wanting more through the entire book. I was completely hooked.

The main character is a strong female lead which I love, and all of the minor characters are described so perfectly that I felt like I knew them. Now keep in mind, this is a fantasy, dystopian, and slightly sci-fi novel, so if you aren’t in to that it’s probably not going to be your type of book. I love every genre though, and could not seem to put this book down.

I love how the author uses the title of the book a few times throughout the text. I thought that wrapped it up nicely. If you are interested in getting into Sarah’s world of cloning people, dreams become the future, etc. please pick up this book on Amazon. You will not regret it.